Being Assaulted: Americans the New Calhoun's Rats

I haven’t posted for a while because I haven’t had positive things to say. That is perhaps because I was assaulted about two weeks ago. I don’t really understand why. I am not by nature a brutal person and it would never occur to me to get physical with another human being unless it was for love. My emotions run deep about this and I hate being called a victim. But I am a victim and that makes me angry at myself.

Fortunately all of it was caught on video tape. And what I can tell you is that I had endured a month of tell this person to stay away from me and he continued to hound me. He didn’t care that I had ended the relationship. In his mind the relationship could and would only be ended by him. And let me be clear it was only a friendship. He would call all hours of the night and pound on my door. He would chase me around the common areas and I would scream, “Leave me alone” because the message didn’t get through to him in normal decibles..

As those of you who follow my work I have written an article on adhesive capsuilitis. I don’t actually have adhesive capsuilitis but torn tendons in my shoulder which made defending myself impossible as I only had one arm to raise. It was a brutal attack and this person chose to do it in front of my autistic child as I walked to crime watch. I had no doubt he was afraid I would turn him in for stalking at crime watch. As I fouhgt him I faced death and I have spent the better part of the past twp years facing death between watching my Mother die of cancer and now this assault.

I was in shock the night of the beating. And my main concern was working with the police to make certain that the assaulter stayed in jail. There are children and elderly people who live close by that I worry this person would assault. I had trouble sleeping after the incident. I started exercising and that gave me my ability to sleep again but I still have trouble concentrating. In time I will get that back as well. My son with autism has had some behavior issues as he is stressed after seeing all of this but he is getting past it. Everyone is being as nice as they can be without talking about the case. We aren’t allowed to talk about it which can be very isolating. But those are the rules and we follow them and for that reason many details are being left out of this article.

After my assaulter was arrested he was given a “No Contact” order which means he was not allowed to contact me at all. Thank goodness because I feared I would be his first call from jail. I applied and obtained a temporary restraining order and today I am asking for a permanent restraining order. I have to face my assaulter who I am certain he thinks he is the victim in all of this. What is both odd and interesting is that I supposedly will not be able to obtain a restraining order for my son who has autism. This concerns me because I wish to protect my son first and foremost. He is nonverbal and if he is harmed will not be able to testify on his own behalf. He will be able to pick out who did it to him by pointing to a photograph. It is a goal today to be able to obtain a permanent restraining order for my son.

Aggravated assault accounts for 64% of violent crimes in the USA and fewer than 10% of the victims knew their assaulter. In 1999, there were 4.7 million cases of simple assault. But those statistics are old and I would refer everyone to the Uniform Code Report (UCR) to review the violent crimes rate as I am certain they have risen in the last decade.

Anyone convicted of a felony no longer qualifies for Social Security Disability Income. Why would they? What taxpayer would pay for a disabled person to commit felonies? It would seem many of our Social Security insolvency issues would disappear if Florida would crack down on Social Security fraud. There is a number which you can call and report Social Security Fraud to in the state of Floirda. It is the Ispector General's office of Social Security Fraud and the number is 1-800-269-0271. If I had the time I would sit in criminal court rooms and report every convict in Florida. After all it is your tax dollars paying for crime. Why would you pay for criminals who need honest, back breaking work so they stay out of trouble until their dying day.

Maybe your representative can make it a mandatory law that anyone convicted of a felony automatically lose their social security disability income. Afterall if they are capable of committing a felony they certainly are capable of working and getting our of the taxpayers pocket. Let's save Social Security for the truly disabled and the people who have earned it. It is time criminals get off the payroll of Social Security Disability Income.

I shared this very personal journey because I wanted to help others who are victims of crime make the transition through being assaulted. There are many mental health agencies which assist you if you can’t make it through. I have not gone that route as I wouldn’t be inclined to discuss the case with them either. Exercise has been the best medicine and being with my son has also helped a great deal. Helping my son heal through this horrific ordeal has helped as well. And trying to get to physical therapy for my arm and maintain my work routine as I and my research partner are completing our first study. It is funny but on a very small scale compared to the death of a loved one I have felt the same emotions both despair and grief. Hopefully when I get through all of this I will be able to heal from that as well. For those of you interested my son is safe and doing well. I have posted a youtube video of an assault so you could see one. Mine was much worse but that is evidence I can’t share with you at this time. Actually it is very hard for me to watch. And I am wondering what happened to my country. I live in a rural area and not New York City. Have we all become Calhoun’s rats left to starve until we eat each other because if that is the case this country is quickly and decisively running into a civil war. And in my opinion we have no one to blame but the Tea Party and heads in DC should roll.